S O U L M A T E S
Traditionally, it was common for women to be soulmates with their best friends. It was not a title reserved for husbands and romantic partners. I can definitely agree with this. The longest, healthiest and most fulfilling relationship I've had to date has been with my bestie. Not to detract from the wonderful romantic partner I am with, my friendship with my best pal isn't in direct competition with him. She provides me with aspects that my partner doesn't really have the life experience with me to provide. Also what he provides, even after almost 20 years, she can't.
She, like a parent or close sibling, has seen me grow up. From the tender age of 19 all the way to 38. During what I dare to say my most formative years, she was right there beside me. She was my family when mine was so far away. She was confidante and mentor. She was (and is) my biggest critic, ally and cheerleader.
I truly believe a human with a best friend of a substantial amount of time, is possibly a fuller formed individual. When I was on the dating scene, I avoided men who didn't have a best friend. To me, having a bestie shows commitment, understanding, and the ability to work through problems and create a sense of family.
Lone wolves were not attractive to me. Single for years is fine, I'm a testament to that fact that some people take decades and many failures to find a truly compatible romantic companion. But, damn, if you don't have a "ride or die" person...that's where I start to question things. If there isn't someone in your life that sticks by you matter what, you might be an expert of pushing people away or simply not needing other humans. Which I'm not bashing, but I want a partnership and I want family and I need someone who can foster that in my life.
So, if ya gotta bestie, tell them you love them. And if you don't, look around and pick out that person you haven't seemed to get rid of...perhaps they are there for a reason.
I'm gonna go send this to my girl now. Don't forget to head over to youtube and watch the video I made about this, if you like it, share it and if you want to see more, subscribe!
Buh-bye!
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